God has been teaching me the importance of honoring people and the way it affects my relationships. One of the hardest things to do is to honor the people who are closest to us. Ephesians 6 says,“‘Honor your father and mother’ (this is the first commandment with a promise), ‘that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.'” I really like when God gives us promises. It gives me some extra motivation to really try to live out what He asks me to do. And I need the extra motivation, because this one is really hard to do (not only with my parents, but with people that are close to me).
Many times I’ve seen the negative effects when people are dishonored. It’s so hard to control the words that come out of our mouths. Someone will do something that you really don’t like and you just can’t help but tell someone else what this person did so they will see that you’ve been wronged and come over on your side. Speaking these words, much of the time, plants this seed in our their mind and ours, causing us to see the person in a negative view. It’s unbelievable how much one word can change the way we think about someone. We could really enjoy being around someone until someone else points out a negative aspect of their character, and we suddenly become bitter towards them and don’t want to be around them anymore. So I’ve been trying to keep my negative opinions about other people silent and give them to God. I haven’t done it perfectly, but even being aware this has changed the way I relate to people.
It’s hard to honor the people close to us, but I have seen the fruit in the people’s lives who have done this. And I know if I can honor the ones closest to me now, I will be able to honor other people so much better. The most impacting times have been when I’ve seen family members honor each other well. Especially when a husband honors his wife in front of other people. It’s so refreshing to hear people talk well about other people behind their backs – especially when I hear that someone’s talking about me ;). We all love to hear that someone honored us when we weren’t around. I really want to start honoring people better.